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by Danny Davids
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Wow Danny, looks like you got slammed earlier by someone who forgot to take her hormone pills! Thanks for a guy perspective. From my female, been-married-23-years-to-the-same-GREAT-guy perspective, marriage is always about the give and take. Being able to get outside of your own needs and give when your partner needs it, so they'll be able to give back when you need it. IT REALLY DOES WORK!! If that's not what's going on.... run to a good marriage counselor/therapist now!
You could not have been more spot on about how men think differently than women and how women often refuse to recognize this fact. I failed to and have two divorces to show for it. Ironic thing is, I've taken your same exact philosophy and applied it to my family counseling practice and it works amazing. Men generally work hard all day long and women tend to discount this contribution as a "so what, he's supposed to work hard to provide for his family" attitude which I've learned is completely demoralizing to the man and the quickest route to marital unrest. Us gals also do not place importance on the things that interest our men and often see them as trivial but expect him to place values on ours, it just doesn't work that way. You are exactly right about catering to your man on once in awhile and I don't see at all how you were writng this article as a humorous piece (as someone commented). men seriously need to know they are appreciated, understood and none of it done to manipulate what you want. GREAT ARTICLE DANNY...I waited awhile for the dust to settle before commenting so "anonymous" would'nt turn on me for supporting you. Very well written and your ideas DO WORK!Myla, thank you for your kind comments. EVERYBODY needs to be appreciated. In our society, it seems that men are told to "seek out your feminine side" and be more attentive to our partner's needs. I don't think I've ever heard someone tell women to "seek out your masculine side" when dealing with a spouse. FOUL! :)
Hi Danny, wow, I'm exhausted just reading all the comments. :-) excellent job. My husband and I take turns giving eachother time off and when he feels we have been watching too many shoot 'm up bang, bang movies, he picks a chick flick instead. I am glad I came across this older, yet timeless article. Blessings to you! Teresa
I felt this article was spot on. My husband and I just sat down last night to talk about what we needed in our marriage. You know the time off thing was one of his big items.? I thought when he went outside to work on things that was him taking a break from us. But he actually needs some quiet time and never asked for it because he thought it would be selfish because I don't get quiet time. Wow, and I thought he was always thinking of himself. I am glad I found this article. We are both in our early 30's and will be celebrating our 9th anniversary next week and had decided to skip it because We weren't giving gifts from the right place. Him from his head and me from the heart. But now that I know better I hope to have the best anniversary ever. THANKYOU!Kesha, with that attitude, you guys'll hit 9, and then 19, and then 90 (by then science will have extended the human lifespan so it'll happen)! Congratulations on your anniversary, and for crying out loud, CELEBRATE! Every year you complete together is a reason to par-TAY! :)
Well, this is a good article for the most part but you left out several things that are a valuable source of a healthy relationship with your spouse. first, have a date neigh set aside for once a week or once every two weeks that needs to be consistant, make sure that the date night will benefit the both of you, maybe make a sacrifice or two on what you do for the night, then the next time let the other have what they would like to do... Another is make plans to go to a hotel for the evening alone without the kids and make this a part of an ongoing date each month or two, Another, make sure that you have plenty of sex even if you are tired or not in the mood this will make the other feel like they still has it going on ,,,,,,AND LADIES give your husband plenty of oral SEX at least three to four times a week...make this change and you WILL see a Difference in the relationship.....I pormise... I have been Married for 27 years and it since I have made these changes it has changed our relationship for the best times of our lives, He now brings little gifts to me unexpectedly and makes the initiative to be more attentative to me and my needs...These few tips do work try them....I have several great ideas and trust me we have been like newly weds for about five years now Since I have incorporated these changes into our relationship....Also make sure that you keep hime fed and Sexed ..That will start the ball rolling and you will be amazed on what he will start doing on his own. Food coloring for the bath, candles, inscents,and make sure the home is always clean are some other tips for and to set the mood for your spouse, guys like the softer sides of life as well...........Good Luck!!!D, sounds like you've found some secrets that work for you. There is NEVER anything wrong with acting like newlyweds all through your marriage! Congratulations!This sounds good! I hope it will help our marriage!
I really need help for the type of man I seem to attract and the one I'm with currently- hates sports, prefer to read, do something artistic, listen to music, already very romantic towards me, ultra sensitive- I don't think flowers are appropriate- he's not that feminine- or anything sexual as suggested in many other similar blogs- as the sex life is very healthy as it is. What romantic gesture can you do for this type of man who already has a good sex life? What do you do for these sensitive artistic types who are still very proud of their masculinity?Something that doesn't involve sex or food or sports.He does like outdoor activities just not organised team sports. I have already written him poetry and painted some pictures for him but would like to do a couple of larger gestures in between our daily romantic exchanges we do anyway.
I am restricted with money and cooking abilities.I want something that will make him really go "wow"
WowIm a newly wed wife and was looking for more tips for valentines day and stuff and stumbled along this site...Its amazing just how obviouse this stuff is...one thing i do with my hubby (where poor uni students so this works for us) is once a week we turn off our mobiles get a $2 cheap tuesday DVD and munch down on lollies... and he picks the movie each time...This works fine for me i much prefer rambo or die hard over anything soppy...So thankyou for the reassurance that i am along the right track and for a few extra tips...See? It's not necessary to spend an arm and a leg to have romance. And I can guarantee you that letting your husband choose the movie means a lot to him! Congrats!
Well written and just what I was looking for. I want to do things that my husband will appreciate, just the way I want him to do the things that I will appreciate.
There are tons of articles teaching men how to romance women and tons of article written by women teaching women how to romance men the way women want to be romanced. It is nice to read what men would like from a man's perspective.He'sWorthIt, you have hit the nail on the head. Women need to romance their men the way the men want to be romanced, not the way the women feel they should be romanced! Treat a guy the way he wants to be treated, not the way you want to be treated, nor the way you'd want to be treated if you were a guy (which is full of the woman's stereotyping a man into all-he-wants-is-food-sports-and-sex). Take the time to find out what HE wants, just like you would expect him to take the time to find out what YOU want when you need a little romance! Thanks for your timely comments.
I've been married for 13 years. Sometimes, we take eachother for granted. I'm really going to try not to. I am going to put the things described here in action. Boost my husband, my marriage, and myself in the process. I know that when he feels better, I feel better. I want him to be "woo-ed"! ;o) I don't think the article was negative towards women at all, as some comments have stated. I thought it was highly powerful for women pointing out how much the simple things we do (or don't do) can vastly influence our husbands. That gives US the power! I do not feel like it is beneath me as a woman to "attend" to my husbands needs. I'm glad I can. I want him to know he can trust me. Thanks for the article.Christy, each partner needs to be willing to meet the needs of the other. Marriage isn't a 50-50 deal--it's 100-100!
WHAT TO DO WITH A PASSIVE AGRESSIVE? IF YOU TRY TO LOVE THEM THEY WON'T LET YOU. DO YOU HAVE AN ANSWER FOR THIS TYPE OF CHALLENGE IN A RELATIONSHIP. HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD ONE GIVE TO THE PASSIVE AGRESSIVE TYPE BEFORE REALIZING TO JUST MOVE ON EVEN AFTER 25 YEARS.honestly i feel like this its not always the other person sometimes people need 2 view them selves to see that it takes 2...people throw around terminologies all the time about people ..hes bipolar shes schizophrenic its a ongoing problem in society 2day my point is maybe the person wouldnt be so passive aggressive if u could just understand where there comming from
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